The relationship between parents can have a strong influence on the mental and emotional well-being of their children. Co-parenting after a long and drawn out child custody case is often the hardest part. Experts suggest compromising during co-parenting interactions, and creating a plan and sticking with it. In California and elsewhere, more parents are choosing to parent their children together after divorce.

Parents who have gone through separation, divorce and custody proceedings may have already agreed to a parenting plan. Having a written agreement in place can help to stop any arguments before they surface. There will be less temptation to request last minute schedule changes if a plan is in place. Although it may be a difficult adjustment, keep things as calm and stress-free as possible and try to put all ill feelings on the back burner. 

Having to meet the ex-spouse halfway or even doing a bit more than one’s fair share may relieve that amount of stress on the children. It may be easier to compromise on little things such as the drop-off and pickup times and places. try to set aside differences and maintain a civil and respectful relationship in front of the children. While the role of the spouse has ended, parenting duties will continue.

Co-parenting after child custody and divorce means that both parents play an active role in their children’s lives. The key to success is how well the parents function. No matter how much planning or compromising there is, it may not work in all circumstances. A California parent who has questions about child custody agreements may benefit from speaking with an attorney about any concerns.

Source: romper, com, “7 Expert Tips For Surviving The Holidays With Your Co-Parenting Ex”, Steph Montgomery, Dec. 20, 2017